Money, envy and hatred will not make you happy. Niether will hurting others. Intentional mental and physical pain will only create a visious cycle of more hurt, thinking that is the only way to get what you want.
Even though we all want to put our best face forward and fit the moulds of daughter, hero, innocent, it's impossible. We are humna and bear the scars of our love and mistakes and should never be ashamed of them. Our experiences make us stronger and better.
Be yourself, love yourself, love others and be loved in return. That's what it means to be human.