But there are other things that must be considered before the deed can be done.
Contraceptive. Never just assume that the other person will have it covered. Not all women are on the pill and not all men carry condoms. Don’t forget some people are allergic to latex and must use a contraceptive that won’t try to kill them in the process. Find what works for you and your situation. The pill can stop pregnancies (as long as you take it every single day) but it has no chance of stopping STI’s. Condoms are great at halting the spread of some STI’s but not all. Diaphragms, the bar, withdrawal (that last one is not advised at all. Do not try!), there are all kinds out there with their own pros and cons. Visit a doctor and have a frank discussion about what you want and what is on the market. What works well for one person or couple, won’t necessarily work for another.
While at the doctors ask about getting checked for STI’s. The tests won’t be for certain as some viruses will be dormant for months or even years and can only be identified when they are active and being annoying. Don’t worry yourself sick if a test comes back positive. It isn’t the end of the world. Some can be cured and others can be managed. You are not a diseased whore. Don’t let anyone make you feel that way. You are brave if you can talk about having an STI with past and future partners, family, and friends. If you don’t disclose something like that and place another human at risk then you are being a dickhead.
So what have we learned? Consent. Yep. Contraceptive. Hell yes. STI check. Of course.
Finally, after the horizontal mambo, making the beast with two backs, ringing the devil’s doorbell... having sex... there is one last thing to do. Be a gentleman or a lady and don’t kiss and tell. It is horrible when you think you trust someone so much that you can be that intimate with them and it’s just between the two of you and then you hear that he’s been talking to his mates. Even worse when it isn’t the truth.
Sex is more than just a physical act done for pleasure. There are emotions involved. Be kind. Be a hero. Make love. The only person who can judge you is yourself.