I’ve used this excuse. Every woman has said this. Some fictional stories have begun romances with this lie.
But why is this acceptable and simply saying the truth isn’t? Are men really that insecure they have to have a “valid” reason not to continue pressuring a woman to consider them as a boyfriend? What’s wrong with “thank you but I can’t return your feelings”?
We have to acknowledge the courage it takes to confess your feelings to another person. All that anxiety and rehearsing what you’re going to say and how. Cuddos. If you have the balls to do that, you’re on the right path. But if you let your balls shrivel up and fall off when you won’t take no for an answer, then you’re a loser.
Said this before; no-one owes you shit. Just because you give attention it doesn’t mean they have to like you.
Which is okay. There is nothing wrong with being rejected. It just wasn’t meant to be.
Smile, thank them for their honest response and wish them a happy life, and MOVE ON!
Don’t call her a bitch, don’t make out like you were doing it out of pity, don’t bully her into saying yes just to get you to back off. Accept the fact she isn’t attracted to you in that way and find someone else who is.
The fact women have had to use the fake boyfriend to get out of an awkward situation is horrible. For one, it’s an excuse that’s accepted because you’re already someone else’s property and they won’t touch something that belongs to another man. Yep, the fake boyfriend is another stab at our freedoms.
If a guy is pressuring and says that he won’t accept no, but as soon as you say you have a boyfriend, and you use a male friend to play the part for five minutes, the guy will apologise to your friend for trying something with you. “I didn’t know she was your woman.”
Where’s if you’re single and you admit to the fact, your no won’t be enough for them and they will keep harassing until you snap and tell them to fuck off. And then you’re a bitch or you’re frigid.
Being in a relationship, from this example, looks like it’s meant to protect women from the harassment of other men looking for a partner. If you’re not in one, you’re free game. Women still need to be under the protection of a man, apparently. We need his name, him escorting us to social events, his arm over our shoulders just to show that we’re not interested in any advance from another man.
Writing this makes me sick.
I am a woman. I am not some piece of property. My “no” really does mean “no”. I shouldn’t have to use a fake boyfriend. I shouldn’t have to slip a ring onto the ring finger and wave it around.
So, the men out there who act like the creeps; please stop. Think about how uncomfortable you make women feel. Think about how your actions are not being responded to in a positive manner. If that’s what you get off on, then seek counselling. Or go to a brothel and pay. Just stop harassing.